Planning a wedding in Italy offers couples the chance to immerse themselves in a culture rich with traditions and rituals that make wedding ceremonies uniquely enchanting. For many foreign couples, understanding and incorporating Italian wedding etiquette can enhance their special day and provide guests with a memorable experience. Here’s a guide to navigating these customs, ensuring your wedding not only embraces Italian culture but also respects its norms and practices.
Italian Wedding Traditions
Rice Throwing
Traditionally, guests throw rice at the newlyweds as they exit the ceremony to symbolize prosperity and fertility. However, many venues in Italy restrict this practice due to mess concerns. If marrying in a church, you might still be able to uphold this tradition outside as the couple makes their exit.
Wedding Bands on the Left Hand
In Italy, it is customary to wear the wedding band on the left ring finger, believed to be directly connected to the heart by the “vena amoris” (vein of love). This charming tradition is rooted in ancient belief and is a detail often explained to those unfamiliar with Italian customs.
Toasts with Sparkling Wine
No Italian wedding is complete without multiple toasts using sparkling wine like Prosecco or Spumante. These celebrations are often punctuated with shouts of “Evviva gli sposi!” (Long live the bride and groom!), echoing through the venue.
The “Bacio” on Demand
It’s a fun tradition for guests to clink their glasses with utensils, prompting the newlyweds to kiss. This playful interaction is typically accompanied by chants of “bacio, bacio, bacio!” (kiss, kiss, kiss!) from the attendees.
Grand Entrances
The newlyweds’ entry to the reception is a highlight, often accompanied by a lively musical performance. A common tradition is the “sfazzolettata,” where guests wave handkerchiefs to welcome the couple, creating a colorful, festive atmosphere. The song “Volare,” originally by Domenico Modugno, is a popular choice for this moment. However, many couples prefer the version by the Gipsy Kings because of its upbeat, danceable rhythm that adds an extra layer of festivity and encourages everyone to join in the celebration. This energetic entrance sets a joyful tone for the remainder of the event.
Confetti and Wedding Cakes
In Italy, “confetti” refers to sugared almonds given to guests as symbols of prosperity and fertility, usually handed out in odd numbers (five or seven). The wedding cake is another centerpiece, often a spectacular creation like a millefoglie with Chantilly cream and berries or a beautifully decorated tart.
The Bride’s Garter and Bouquet
A fun tradition involves the groom removing the bride’s garter and tossing it to the unmarried men, similar to the bouquet toss for the unmarried women. These actions are believed to bring good luck to those who catch them.
The First Dance and Beyond
While a waltz was traditionally the first dance for newlyweds, many modern couples opt for more contemporary songs or choreographed dances to personalize their experience.
Celebrations Until Dawn
Italian weddings are renowned for their longevity, often lasting until the early morning hours. It’s customary to serve a “spaghettata di mezzanotte” or midnight snack, keeping the festivities going and guests energized.
Conclusion
Embracing Italian wedding traditions can transform your celebration into an authentic cultural experience filled with joy, music, and communal festivity. By incorporating these customs, your wedding in Italy will not only honor the rich cultural heritage but also create an unforgettable atmosphere for you and your guests.
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